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Two Month Check Up


Sage passed her two month exam with flying colors. She now weighs 9 lbs 10oz and is 22 inches long! She’s getting to be a big baby and has already outgrown a couple of her outfits. She stays awake longer and spends most of that time checking out her scenery. She’s more interested in my shelf of nailpolishes than in the faces before her and she’s beginning to clutch at things and can hold her head up. Her next step is rolling over.
She’s sleeping about six hours at night, waking for a quick feed, then drifting off again for another couple of hours. It’s not so bad so long as I can get to sleep at a decent hour (tonight that’s not happening) . This morning, I plopped her into her vibrating chair and took a shower, blew dry my hair and headed to a commercial audition in Salt Lake City. I can’t say that I have the mommy thing down 100 percent but it’s not too overwhelming. Now if I could only motivate to work. I waste sooo much time playing on the internet, loading photos, emailing friends and working on the Sports Guide that I have neglected my other writing avenues. Sage occupies a significant portion of my day but more because I want her to rather than because she demands it. Like her little onesie reads “It’s all about me.” You also begin to feel that nothing else is as important as taking care of a child. This is what it’s all about. This is what we’re here for. Everything else is busy work.
My parents return from Europe this week and I may scoop Sage up and fly out to San Diego so the rest of my family can meet her. Once the ski season starts, they won’t see her until the spring. She’ll be seven or eight months old by that time. Plus, we have a Thanksgiving in Massachusetts that’s bound to challenge even a sentry at Buckingham Palace. San Diego will be an effective trial run if I can corrdinate a time to fly.
I’m beat now. One last thing. It snowed today. It was a blizzard actually- our third winter storm in the fall. I never told you this but it snowed on the day Sage was born- Aug. 12. Ryan and I got a kick out of that. It was a sign!
More Photos: http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/pcskigal/album?.dir=/4e44scd&.src=ph&.tok=ph2jwqFB1awdge4J

Drumroll Please…Baby Sage Has Arrived!

It seems like just last week that I was still collecting maternity clothes and playing around with outfits. Today, I’m all about nursing tops. The 39 weeks flew by. I can barely remember being pregnant now except for the excrutiating contractions that preceded the big day.
The Outdoor Retailer Show cruised into Salt Lake last week and, determined not to miss an appointment, I booked up the days and made my way to Willard Bay for the outdoor demo day. Why the organizers insist on running that event so far away from everything is beyond me- especially when we have at least three other great reservoirs within 30 minutes of the Salt Palace. Instead I hauled my butt about an hour from town to hang on the shore in the 90-degree heat and meet with a few manufacturers like Teva, Garmin, Hobie. I felt fine and still no one really said anything to me about being pregnant (except when I pointed it out myself and then they offered statements of disbelief.) When are you due? they’d ask. Next week! I’d eagerly and proudly reply. If only to be so lucky. The due date came early.
I hit the show on Thursday, making all of my appointments – including the party at the Depot featuring Flock of Seagulls. I stayed the night at Ryan’s place with every intention of hitting the show bright and early the next day. Then those damn contractions. Imagine your worst menstral cramps (or, guys, diarrhea) then times by 10. Every five minutes they hit, driving me to screams, pillow clutching and pummeling, and thoughts of guns and bullets. I couldn’t take the pain but the hospital told me to wait until these contractions were THREE minutes apart rather than five. You have got to be joking, I thought. After three hours, the status hadn’t changed but I couldn’t sit around. We drove home to Park City at 6 a.m. where I collapsed on my bed from exhaustion and managed to sleep…for 15 minutes before the next round of contractions. Stef called in a prescription for Lortab and I laid low on Friday. By nightfall, I was sick of sitting in the house. Ryan and I headed back to Salt Lake for the OWIC Ramp It Up Party at Port O’Call.
The room spun and the appetizers swing-danced in my belly until I was grabbing for empty glasses on the table and hurling into them. I swear to God, I’m telling the truth. I filled four glasses with puke then covered them with napkins. It was too crowded to make a dash for the bathroom safely.
Home by midnight. Contractions by 2 a.m. it had begun again. At 4 a.m. Ryan drove me to St. Mark’s. At 5 a.m. I was four centimeters dialated and the epidural flowed. A sigh of relief sped through my body. They left us in the delivery room to sleep and wait for further dialation. at 6 a.m. Stef arrived to tell me that they were going to dose me with pitocin because the epidural had slowed the dilation. More drugs? Cool.
At 10:25 a.m., game on. The head was already peeking and though I could feel absolutely nothing from the belly button down, I held my parapalegic-legs and did an upright version of ab crunches to the delight of my doctor. Three ‘pushes’ and out popped Sage. It was 10:33 a.m.
Ryan and I can’t stop staring at this little girl. She’s gorgeous. Of course, I wonder if I just think that because she’s mine but who cares. The 6 lb, 17″ tiny creature is beyond anything I could imagine. She’s a week old now and still I can’t get enough time with her. It’s hard to get anything else done as I find myself watching her every little movement and facial expression. She stretches often- like a kitten. She purses her lips like Betty Boop when she’s about to wake up for feeding; she scrunches her face when she squeezes out a little green poop. And she’s so quiet! Rarely cries and almost always asleep, she’s too tiny for much more.
Sage isn’t sleeping through the night but she’s making a valiant attempt. She’ll wake at 2 a.m., 4:30 a.m. and then 10 a.m. I can handle the hours (look, I’m writing this blog at 2) but Ryan is a mess and can be quite irritating when he’s woken like this. His mom has been here all week as well but she leaves Monday. She came to help out but I don’t need it- not yet. So this was more a time for them to bond. My mom will be here Thursday.
Well, I’ve babbled enough and need to try to sleep before the baby wakes and needs a boob. I’ve posted photos at http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/pcskigal/album?.dir=/e9dere2&.src=ph&.tok=phO3WXFB4LlCA7Fa if you care to surf over to yahoo!
P.S.-We’re still in need of small Happy Heinys pocket and Wallypop All In One cloth diapers if you are thinking of sending a gift. We need about 20 of these things to start cloth diapering her but we only have 5 so far. They are pretty cool inventions. You can check them out at http://babysbottomline.com & http://www.thestorkwearhouse.com.

38 Weeks Pregnant. Ugh.

The magazines aren’t kidding. As I get closer to popping, my sleep has gone to hell, the baby now moves in the middle of the night instead of just before I fall asleep, the belly weighs too much and I feel like a cow. The good news is that although Stef says I’m about 70 percent effaced, there is no dilation. The baby has moved lower, head down, and it’s now a waiting game. I can apparently safely make it through the Outdoor Retailer’s Show which ends Sunday. The prescription for this week is rest and no sex. My doctor told me there’s a strong chance that sex could induce labor and I don’t want to take any chances.
The biggest downfall now with having a 27-year-old, testosterone-filled boyfriend is that he’s not very understanding when I say, “No sex this week.” The begging last night was borderline desperate and definitely disturbing. Nine times out of 10 I’m happy to oblige; but this week “NO” means no. And he wasn’t giving up. It hurt my feelings because he wasn’t listening to me and didn’t care about what I needed and wanted. He kept pressuring me. It’s cool that he still feels attracted to the nine-month pregnant chick but I started to get the feeling that it had nothing to do with me and everything to do with releasing his ‘tension.’
It was all about him getting some because he had been out of town last week. How is it going to be once the baby’s born?? Stef says no intercourse for six weeks to allow the privates to heal. Six weeks will be an eternity to Ryan. I don’t think we’ve gone six days in the past three years. I know that I can trust him but that doesn’t mean he will be supportive and understanding during this period. Like I need to add guilt and sexual pressure to everything else that will transpire over the next two months. Perhaps I’m worrying over nothing and should just wait and see. Hmmm. Maybe all of my hormones are running amok and making me paranoid.
I certainly am not thinking straight after just two hours of sleep. The future- something very hard to imagine at this point. I can’t even imagine giving birth, let alone being a mother for the rest of my life. There are sooo many “what ifs” at this point. I don’t regret my decision to become pregnant. It’s just that I could always draw an outline of my life and for the first time I’m drawing a huge blank. Check back for the final belly photos.

37 weeks….three more to go!!

Whoa! Where does the time go? All of a sudden, my doctor (Stef Singer) is telling me I’m 60 percent effaced and ready to pop. I still haven’t swollen up or gotten any of the usual pregnant chick symptoms. Just lots of peeing. I find that the occasional Ambien (as prescribed!) will get me a good night’s sleep without running to the toilet at 4 a.m. I highly recommend keeping a small stash on hand if you are thinking of getting knocked up. When I get to that point where I am sooo tired I’m beyond able to fall asleep, out comes my little blue friend.

But I’m told that no matter how icky I feel now, once I give birth I will wish I could put her back inside.
My mom predicts the Big Day to occur between Aug. 15 – 20 (instead of the Aug.22 due date). If only Sage can forestall her entry into this world until after the Outdoor Retailer Show next week. I have people to see and places to go! Tis not the time for hospital visits.

It’s getting progressively more unbearable to work. All I want to do is lie down and take the pressure off my belly. It doesn’t help to have 100-degree heat for the past two weeks. Thankfully, we have rain and 70 degrees this week.

Hats off to you women out there who put on 30 to 60 pounds during a pregnancy. I’ve gained 19 and feel like a Thanksgiving Turkey 24-7. Only during the first few moments of waking in the morning do I forget I’m pregnant. I wake up, lie still and it’s as if it were all a dream…until I swing my feet over the mattress edge and scamper for the toilet. Another tip: when you urinate, lift your belly up to make sure you totally empty your bladder. I liken it to that extra shake guys do just as they’re finishing up.

Sage doesn’t move much and when she does it’s only a soft rolling feel, she’s adjusting her position? There’s just no room for her in there. She gets the hiccups a ton and that can be annoying but just like when you get them, as soon as you ignore them, they go away. They feel like someone flicking your belly from the inside with an index finger – a rhythmic thumping. She had them tonight during the movie. I went to a screening of The Descent – a horror film about a group of girls who go caving and find themselves stuck in a cavern with these subhuman naked dudes that feast on them one by one. The tension from their trapped situation alone was enough to get my heartrate up. What a ride. I screamed my head off. I’m sure that’s not something most babies hear in utero. If you’ve ever wondered whether horror films can bring on labor, I’ll let you know.

Ryan is home this week visting his family and has asked me to wait until he gets back to have my baby. Uh, sure, Babe. My mother and father were here last week and then Ryan’s mom will be in town as soon as the baby’s born. Nothing like a pregnancy to get everyone involved I guess. But I welcome the attention. I’m completely at a loss and expect to feel overwhelmed shortly. All I know about babies is from what I’ve read recently. I never had to raise any kids; and babysitting was just a way to make some extra bucks on weeknights when I was 13.

My mom has surprised me. Not to look a gift horse in the mouth but she has gone from pretending I’m not pregnant and telling me “this is your thing, you’ll have to do it alone”, to flying out here, taking me shopping for baby stuff and going to the doctor with me. I tried so hard not to let her aloofness bother me that I had no idea how much I really needed and wanted her love and support through this experience. It was incredible having them here. They got to see my growing belly in the flesh and not just here on my blog. Better late than never!

I think the house is just about in order. Tenaya’s been groomed, the baby clothes washed and organized, an overnight bag packed for the hospital, my friend Deb (the coolest B&B owner in Park City- Old Town Guest House) on standby for the ride to St. Mark’s Hospital and soon I’ll set up the bassinet in my room. Thank you again for your gifts and hand-me-downs. I couldn’t have stocked up like this on my own. No way. So a zillion hugs, kisses and good karma to you.

I have another doctor’s appt. on Wednesday. Check back this weekend as I’ll let you know what Stef says.

33 Weeks and Ready Rentals Takes Advantage of Pregnant Woman

I must have brought Utah’s weather to New York. Yesterday was surprisingly cool- I almost needed a sweater. Today the report calls for 80 degrees, sunny and DRY. Talk about lucky. This visit is my last ‘hurrah’ for a while because despite being too small to notice, my doc has grounded me after this jaunt to New York. On the agenda for the past three years, it was time to see old friends and try to drum up new business with some of the magazines here. Plus, I had a hell of a week. First, the seller of this rental house I wanted in West Valley decides not to repair a roof he knows is rotten and I waste the inspector money as the sale falls through and then I have some sort of brain aurism and hire this lame company called Ready Rentals Cleaning Services to scour my home before the baby comes.
The quote came AFTER they visited my home. $300. I DID think the quote was high- how many people do you know that make $300/day, especially a cleaning lady? I was willing to do it- this once. I believed that I would be getting my money’s worth. That’s what they told me! You see, I wanted every particle of dust, dirt, dog hair, etc. removed; a hospital-like clean, like one of those you get just before you sell a house; like what Ready Rentals advertises! And there motto is “Cleaning Homes Not pockets.” Riiiight. I believed the price was so high because they were going to do that kind of job. What I got was a $70 cleaning job. A woman and her two teenage daughters arrived at 4 p.m. (instead of 3 as agreed) and I was worried that they would have to return the next day because any other time I have had a cleaning crew of even two people it would take five hours and I really didn’t expect someone to be cleaning at 9 p.m. on a Friday night. For $300, you should be getting a crew of 9 people if they think they’re going to finish (doing a great job) before nightfall.
Donita worked hard, I’ll give her that, but every time I peered around a corner or walked into a room I caught a kid sitting around, leaning against a wall or casually stroking a baseboard with a sponge or dancing a slow waltz with the duster. At about 8 p.m., Donita annouced she was almost done. I walked into what would be the baby’s room and nothing had been touched, not the floor vaccuumed or the window sill wiped among everything else. Then I went into the kitchen, put my hand on top of my overhead microwave and felt the tackiness of old grease (main things you do when ‘deep cleaning’ or even regular cleaning for that matter). She said, ‘oh yeah. we forgot. We’ll get to that.” I knew now I was in trouble. At 9 p.m. everyone left the house to get something to eat. I got back at 10:30 p.m. and they were there cleaning; one person essentially, 6.5 hours. Had I been paying $60 I would have felt bad and let them leave. For $300, it wasn’t nearly enough. That’s why again, I acccepted the estimate. I wanted my house germ-free for baby and to get what I paid for. Up to this point I hadn’t said anything because I did believe that they would come back if they had to or stay all night to finish the job they promised to do.
Then I get a call from her husband asking where she is. I explained that she showed up at 4 and that’s when he told me that it usually only takes them 2-3 hours to clean a place (for $300??? That’s insane!). I told him that she had a lot of work to do and was surprised that any of them thought they could get done in three hours ( I have a 2100 sq foot house, three bathrooms). He sounded frustrated and angry. I told Donita about the call and she grunted and raised her brow like I should know better than to keep her here this long. At this point, I felt I had been taken but was determined to make them clean as promised so that the experience would end this way.
This woman was here thinking she could get away with a few hours of wiping here and there then walk with $300 of my very hard-earned dollars. That’s a month’s rent! Anyway, this was when I took a closer look around the house. I ran my hand along THE TOP of my kitchen counter and my living room coffee table and felt the bumps (and saw the spots) where there were still dried food particles- the kind where you simply lick a finger and they rub off. I ran my hand on the kitchen floor and felt rough patches and stickiness- stuff any housecleaner would get if they were doing their job. I looked in the corners behind my plant in the kitchen and the floorboard was filthy and dust and doghair still piled there. They didn’t move a single book, plant or box to sweep, vaccum or dust. What cleaner do you know gets away with that? and defintely not one you’re paying $300. The handles on my kitchen fridge had not been wiped down, the plate in the micro untouched, dead flies below the kitchen window and on my living room window sill proved they hadn’t been attentive in the least.
I pointed all this out and asked for it to be done and that is when she fought me, claiming that they did these things. Was I blind? I went to my bedroom, ran my hand between the carpet and baseboard near the side of my bed, and pulled a baseball-sized wad of dog hair from the area. That took me two seconds. SHE SHOULD HAVE DONE THIS WHILE SHE WAS CLEANING. I showed her this. You can’t sell a house unless that’s gone. In my opinion and my two roommates who were here as they left, this job was done half-assed.
She argued with me that they had cleaned. I couldn’t believe this. I’ll admit that my house was dirty but it didn’t get that way between her visit for the estimate and a week later when she showed up to clean. She looked around and saw what was needed. I paid her to do the job – a DEEP clean fit for a newborn- and she should have offered to come back or reduce the price if I was unsatisfied.
In fact, her service order stated 100 percent satisfaction guaranteed.
I said I was not satisfied, not happy, at all with her ‘job’. She said they were done and wanted their money. It was midnight, I was tired, frustrated and frazzled, and a little scared. These people know where I live now.
In hindsight, I should have written a check I could cancel the next day but I couldn’t find it at that hour. I gave them cash, actually expecting her in good faith to hand me some of it back since I had the good faith to attempt to pay and voice my dissatisfaction. They ran off, never cleaning the entryway tile or front door (another thing every cleaner does and which they said they would get on the way out). In the morning, my roommate spent an hour cleaning his own bathroom. When you pay someone to clean your home, you don’t expect to have to clean again in the morning. For one thing, there was urine underneath the toilet ring and the toilet handle still dirty. I looked around in the daylight, even more dismayed.
I called Donita and asked for $100 of the $200 back- which, though was not fair in my mind it would at least put me at ease. She argued with me that when they clean, they clean empty homes and that they never spend as much time cleaning as they did at my house so I wasn’t getting any return. “We don’t move furniture,” she said. Yeah, but what about just the stuff you can see? The stuff every other cleaning person gets? I told her then she shouldn’t have quoted me or promised to do the job I wanted if they couldn’t provide it. At $300 I couldn’t ask for too much, you know? Even $200 is more that she deserved but at least I wouldn’t feel robbed. Which is exactly how I felt when they refused to honor their guarantee. And now I must add a small claims case to my list of things to do next week. You can’t “guarantee” money back for dissatisfaction and then not give it. I feel like these people are sharks. Yes I was a fool to ever agree to pay that much, to let this woman in my house without references and to pay with cash. Maybe it was my hormones not letting me think straight. I learned a very expensive lesson and can only hope to prevent the next person from experiencing my frustration and financial pain. There are plenty of cleaners out there that won’t take you to the cleaners. Why even bother with one you’re not sure of?
This NY break has been amazing for my soul. Quite restful comparatively. Carol Ann’s cute, little one-bedroom has a daybed and A/C. It’s in the midtown/Flatiron area and with the subway, I can get anywhere. Today, we’ll check out the Bodies exhibition. Toodles.
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